The MARRIAGE MONDAYS topic today is "Being Apart". I am hoping that you will leave your comments with ideas on how you make a special connection with your partner when:(1) They are about to go away
(2) They are away
(3) They return from being away
I am trying to post things that are relevant in my own life and marriage - and this one is TOP OF MIND today because my spouse is leaving tomorrow at 5:00am for 4 days, 3 nights away (for work). I am sorry to report that I did not act fast enough to do something really nice for him before he leaves -- we were really busy today and in retrospect, I should have taken more time. He is going away again next Monday, so perhaps I will do better then!
My suggestion for a spouse going away for just a little while or an extended period is to do something really nice before they leave so that you can both carry the positive energy from that during your time apart.
Another idea that I've had is to put a bag of their favorite treats (such as Lindt pumpkins available at Winners) in his suitcase or bag (secretly) with a loving note.
Anyway, I would not be doing what I should unless I got off the computer right now (or an hour ago) and went to spend some time with MY spouse, who is my #1 before he goes away!!!
Your comments and ideas are appreciated. Have a great week!
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Hey there Kel. I thought I would comment here seeing as there really isn't a month where Geoff doesn't travel and so we have a mulitude of experience with this.
When my husband travels it's usually for at least a week at a time, but this summer my son and I were away from home and visiting family for 3 weeks. As a fun way to make the away time special for both my husband and my son, as fun as any separation from a parent can be when you're 2, I purchased three post cards and wrote on them (one per week we were away) from my son's perspective and sent them to my hubby at our home. They included all the things we were doing and how much my son missed his Dad.
Besides the love notes you've mentioned, another thing I have done for my husband is purchase an ipod and download it with some of his favourite songs and songs that remind me of him and our love for one another.
Since the way to my husband's heart is through his stomach I typically make a feast of a few of his favourite foods on the night he returns, too.
Even though Geoff is the one to do most of the traveling, he likes to do stuff for me as well. When my son and I returned from our three week trip, he was there waiting with a huge bouquet of roses.
Getting flowers are rare for me, which I don't mind too much, because my all time favourite thing for him to do when he goes away is to leave me little messages written on the bathroom mirror. Often Geoff has to leave at some horrid hour and he'll write a message on the mirror for me to wake up and discover.
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