PHOTOHUNTERS: Theme - Sweet

[June 29th/07 11:39pm]

The PhotoHunters theme for Saturday, June 30th is SWEET! Just wondering if I can take picture of jubes and other candies and then eat them all up???!!! I am having some cravings tonight! Anyway, will think about the theme and take some photos tomorrow. Trying not to always just post pics of my kids, but they are such SWEETIES :) :) :) (speaking of sweet!)

Anyway, will be back tomorrow...

Sleeping Baby Boy, what could be sweeter than that?

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MARRIAGE MONDAYS: July 2007

July 2, 2007 will be our SECOND-ever MARRIAGE MONDAY. I hope that you will choose to participate by thinking about a way that you can go out of your way to do something GOOD FOR YOUR MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP on Monday. Don't stop there though - keep the ball rolling and open yourself to the possibilities of relationship bliss, all week long!

It is always great to hear from people who's marriages have lasted the test of time. I found THESE tips (below) from pair of experts on the Internet who interviewed just such people!

Have a great Marriage Monday everyone and PLEASE send details on what you plan to do, what you did, or both!!!

Why Relationships Last

In talking with couples who have been married for many years, these aspects of marriage (not listed in any type of priority) are listed as necessary for a long lasting marriage.

Continue to build intimacy -- both sexually and emotionally -- throughout your marriage.
Create passion for life and for one another.
Continue to be committed to each other and celebrate your sense of commitment.
Like one another and be friends with each other.
Have fun together, laugh together, and use humor in healthy ways.
Comfort, encourage, and affirm one another.
Be able to stand on your own feet as a couple and not be dependent either financially or emotionally on either of your parents.
Respect one another's need for privacy and space.
Parent together.
Deal with a crisis and adversity together.
Fight fair.

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SOME IDEAS FOR MARRIAGE MONDAYS:

• Cook his/her favorite meal, make it a surprise!
• Book a babysitter and plan a dinner out.
• Send a nice note in his/her work bag or lunch.
• Call part way through the day and tell him/her that you miss him/her or were thinking about him/her.
• Take on a household chore that your spouse would usually need to get done on Mondays.
• If there is something that you have been "bugging" about, don't mention it on Marriage Monday!

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[June 30th/07 11:55pm]

Update: I have signed up on behalf of all of us for:

10 WEEKS TO A BETTER MARRIAGE!

Yippie - this is week ONE :)

Week 1: Talk About Your Expectations

Unrealistic Expectations Have to be Faced
Everyone has expectations. However, unrealistic expectations will end up being direct paths to disappointment and unhappiness in your marriage. These include having false expectations, believing in the myths about marriage, thinking that someone else can make you happy, trying to read one another's mind, wanting to do everything together, and wanting to have a perfect marriage. When these are not identified or verbalized, they can create great barriers in your marriage. Hopefully, your expectations will include being able to lovingly resolve conflicts, to appreciate your differences as individuals, to respect and cherish one another, and to be able to discuss values and priorities.

COMPUTERS 101: Your Profile Picture

These days, most of us are on the computer for one thing or another. You may or may not already be using a profile picture for applications such as MSN Messenger, Facebook, Blogs, Epinions or other sites and programs. Perhaps the reason you do not have a profile picture is that you just don't like most pictures of yourself. You are not alone. As I mentioned in a previous entry, there are edits that you can do in common picture-programs that may be of interest to you and help you to come up with a profile picture that you like.

By the way, if you don't have a profile picture because you are worried about security or accessibility issues, you should investigate the application further to see if you can find out more about the ins and outs. One option if you aren't comfortable putting your own photo up is to select a scenery photo or free image from the Internet or your own picture files. To look on the Internet, go to:

http://www.google.com/

"images" - search

If you type in the type of image you want and add "+ free images" to your search, you may get non-copyright protected pictures that you can choose from. You can also type in "free clip-art".

There are lots of sites that provide free images, especially in lower resolution or clip-art. Yahoo Search also has an "images" option.

BACK TO PROFILE PICTURES:

- use your digital camera to take several face and full shots of yourself

- I suggest outdoor pictures with a scenic background (pleasant, but not distracting)

- Take the pictures in "your element" (though, I still recommend outdoors).

- With the proper lighting and a solid, plain background, you can also take good indoor close-ups.

- upload the pictures to your computer

- Use Microsoft Picture-It, Adobe or Picasa2 (free download) to edit your pictures

- try things like cropping, changing to black and white or sepia. Each time you make a set of edits that you like, click "save as" and save the file as a new name. This will ensure that you keep your original photo and can continue to try different edits.

Example of starting photo:

Photo (below) cropped, sharpened and saturated:

Photo (below) sharpened, cropped and sepia:

Photo (below) cropped and regular colouring:

Other ideas for profile pictures could be:

- scan in an old photo of yourself

- take a picture of one of your favorite items such as shoes or purse

- take a picture of your feet or other body part (discretion, please :)

- take a picture of your pet

HINT: User higher resolution when taking photos so that you can crop in closer, while still maintaining photo quality. This is useful if you want to crop in really tight, for example, to just a part of your face.

Time to go, company is here - can give more examples later. I LOVE trying to come up with good profile pictures. Check out the web and you will see that this is an art in itself. I have a long way to go...but enjoying the process of learning and experimenting...

PARENTING: I Love You Rituals

As a mother, one way that I would like to turn a new leaf is to actively seek out and begin to lay down the ground work for memorable family traditions. This topic came up recently in a parenting group that I was part of. Not everyone grew up with a whole lot of traditions, but those that did seem to think very fondly of them. I think traditions give children structure and security and connection to their family. I am thrilled to now have the opportunity to lay this groundwork with my boys. I know that my husband is also eager to give this gift to our children.

Let's get started. One way to start thinking about traditions on a small day to day scale is to implement "I Love You Rituals". I found this great book for only $1.00 at a local discount store that used to get boxes full of books, I am assuming from close-outs. Anyway, I just found the book on Amazon and they also have a feature where you can access citations and other contents through their website. Interesting.

I like this book because it begins with a chapter or two full of background information on why rituals are good for kids and how they tie in with discipline and also boosting brain potential. Who knew!? I will let you take a look at the book yourself, if you are interested. I don't plan on being on the computer all day today, so I think that I will just give you one ritual to try. I will look for something that is appropriate for a two year old and will try it with my own son.

Here's the Beehive (Interactive Finger Plays)


Here's the beehive, where are all the bees?


Hidden away where nobody sees.


Watch and you will see them come out of the hive.


One, two, three, four, five


Bzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz


I'll catch them and keep them alive.


Preparation and instructions: Start this game with the child making a fist with the thumb tucked inside his or her hand, so no "bees" are showing.

"Here's the beehive, where are all the bees?"

Hold the child's fist and look all around the hand with an inquisitive expression.

"Hidden away where nobody sees."

Say this line with a sighing voice as your shrug your shoulders, looking at the child's closed hand.

"Watch and you will see them come out of the hive."

Showing anticipation and delight, prepare your other hand to "remove the bees."

"One, two, three, four, five."

Pick out one "bee" at a time as you count the child's fingers being opened. As each finger is extended, make the "Bzzzzzzzzzz" sound.

"Bzzzzzzzzzzzz"

Once all the "bees" are out, continue making a bee sound and move the child's hand in a fluttering motion.

"I'll catch them and keep them alive."

Pretend to catch the bees by gently tucking the child's fingers inside your hands. When the "bees" are caught, stop the buzzing noise. Check the "bees" several times to make sure they are still alive by opening your hands and looking at them. Each time you check, show the child that the bees are alive by making the "Bzzzzz" sound.

PARENTING: Our Top 10 Baby Gear List

[June 27/07 9:47pm] I don't have the time I need to post details at the moment, but I do want to post our list of TOP 10 BABY GEAR ITEMS. This list would have been our pick during the first twenty-two months of parenthood, when we only had one child.

1. EuroPrimo Bath Tub: The best baby tub. Good from infant to toddler. I think we used it from 4 months to well over a year. Loved it. Great for fun baths that are also safe (baby can not fall back and hit their head on the porcelein tub). It fits right in your bath tub and can hold lots of water for babies or toddlers that are a little bit older. You don't have to waste water filling the entire bath tub.

2. Fisher Price Healthy Care Booster: Just a great booster seat! Great colours, great design, fits securly to almost any kitchen or dining room chair. Tray snaps on easily. has a strap that can be used to carry it over the shoulder. We have taken ours everywhere! I know moms that have used these instead of a traditional, bulky high chair. I highly recommend this product. Read my Epinions review here.

3. Britax Roundabout convertible car seat: I can not say enough about this amazing car seat. It has great safety features, great fabric, great design, great comfort, great portability, great everything! Went into our cars rear-facing with ease and has the awesome push-button strap release that I don't think you can find anywhere else. Has a little bit lower back that some other seats, was great to take on the airplane. Fits SNUG into any vehicle that we have tried. Goes in REALLY easy with the latch system, but we use it with the seat belt in my husband's car. We chose the denim fabric and love it. It is a little cooler in the hot summer temperatures and came recomended by the lady at the store because of that. It is also very easy to clean because it does not have various extra pieces of fabric and unnecessary attachments such as headrests to worry about. Got great safety ratings and ease of use ratings. Check out Consumer Reports here: http://www.consumerreports.org/cro/babies-kids/child-car-booster-seats/car-seats-4-07/overview/index.htm (No report currently available on car seat safety). Check out 2007 ease of use ratings here.

4. Graco Travel System (stroller, infant carrier, base): I think our is a Quattro Tour. Anyway, we got it because it came recommended by a family member for it's ability to travel on rough terrain, such as paths and sand. It has worked out great for us and we are on baby #2 using it. The infant seat is standard and all equipment seems to be holding up well. We like the big basket and full recline position on the stroller.

5. Safety 1st Bouncy Chair: I actually didn't pick this up until our second child, but I am very glad we did. I prefer this seat over the first one that we bought, which was the Fisher Price Infant to Toddler Rocker. It is a great chair as well, but I like the bouncy chair because the baby gets it moving with their own motion, rather than just having the vibration mode like the Fisher Price one. I think our new, Safety 1st, also has a vibration setting, but we haven't even used it. What I really like is that the baby is cuddled right in but sits in an upright position. We had also had a Bumbo, but I recently sold it as the bouncy chair is all we need.

Will have to post the final 6 and our new favorite items list (toddler) another time. Please visit again soon.

SAVINGS: Toonie Tuesdays - Deals

Here is an idea, if Marriage Mondays doesn't take off -- TOONIE TUESDAYS...a day to share ideas on saving money, thrifty shopping and deals, deals, deals!!! At least I feel somewhat qualified to write on this topic, since I do happen to be an extremely thrifty (conscientious) shopper! I guess it could way beyond shopping to facts about saving money on household bills, deals on insurance, savings plans and SO MUCH MORE! I think there are probably lots of families that could benefit from sharing knowledge about SAVING MONEY!

So, what's my TOONIE TUESDAY TIP OF THE DAY? Well, I just found out that where we live, McDonald's has Hamburger Happy Meals for $1.99 on Tuesdays! I never saw myself as being a "McDonald's parent", and we really don't eat a lot of fast food, but check it out...

For $1.99 you get a hamburger, toy, fries OR apple slices and a drink. For a drink you can choose from a small white milk, small chocolate milk, juice or child-sized pop. ALSO, parents get a free coffee! That is a cheap trip to McDonald's and kind-of a fun outing, especially if your McDonald's has a Play Land, which ours does not. You can even feel good about promoting healthier choices by getting the milk and apples. We got one fries and one apples and split :) The coffee wasn't bad either!

Please submit your thoughts, ideas and thrifty secrets HERE or email me HERE and I will post them for you.

HOMEPAGE: MARRIAGE MONDAYS

This is the Non-Official Button Link for Marriage Mondays.
Please visit again soon.


This page is being reserved for Marriage Mondays.


This page is under construction. Contact me for more information.

Update: Marriage Mondays

6/26/2007
Refresh yourself as a mother by going on a women’s retreat or a night out with Dad.

It looks like the concept of Marriage Mondays is officially being kicked off, so to speak! I will continue to give thought to the purpose and potential of this idea. I am also working on a button, in hopes that you will choose to post a link on your site. It would also be great if you would drop by on Mondays to see what's new and read the Marriage Thought of the Day. We would also really like it if you would share your plans to do something special within your marriage on Mondays, or any time at all. If you have any other ideas, such as posting themes or other information each week, please contact me.

Once I have enough thoughts together, I will create an official homepage for Marriage Mondays, with links and comment sharing. We will have to see where it goes from there and hopefully the ideas will take on a life of it's own. Again, your feedback is welcome.

Did anyone participate in Marriage Mondays yesterday? I did. My original idea was to email my husband and have him choose the dinner menu, but he was too busy to reply. I had also considered not emailing him with any to dos or other rants throughout the day. I got off a bad start with my first email, which included a request to fix our home computer; however, from there on in, I held myself back and did not send my usual stream of emails - until late afternoon, anyway....Hey, you have to start somewhere! I think I made up for it later and I think my husband is feeling pretty enthused about Marriage Mondays. I don't think it is too much to ask to give a little bit of thought and care to the marriage, at least one day of the week!

Hope to hear from all of you on ideas for keeping your marriage strong, especially through difficult or stressful times, such as the infant and toddler stages!!!

Have a great day!

PARENT REVIEWS: Diaper Bags

Who knew that this could be such a life-alterting topic, post-baby!? Wow. The diaper bag is this whole entity in itself, isn't it? Personally, I have gone through several diaper bags, many of which were not actually on the market as such. I started with a baby blue bag from Zellers.

Pretty Baby Diaper Bag - Zellers

I think it is called "Pretty Baby". I don't know who makes it. I bought it because I figured I was having a boy (I was right), but thought that I could still use it if I didn't because of the light colour. This bag worked well for travels in the car and with the stroller. I found that in the beginning I needed a bigger bag because I had no idea what to bring or what I didn't need to bring. I am an over-packer to begin with, so once I had an infant to take along as well, it was trouble! I think the packing peaked when I had to also start bringing snacks for baby.

Some time after that I saw that a friend was using a purse-style bag from Old Navy. I purchased that and found it really handy for trips to the mall. This was the post-baby phase where I wanted to get some of my "womanly identify" back anyway. Did this happen to you? That point where you want to where some of your old clothes or put on perfume, even though you hadn't been doing these things for various reasons? Okay, I'll stop right there. If you are wondering what the heck I am talking about, new moms are actually told to cut out the smelly soaps, body lotions, shower gels and perfumes because a new baby has a sensitive nose and might be turned off from nursing. I was a very "by the book" kind of first-time-mom, so I obliged. Anyway, back to my review -- The purse was good and could fit some diapers, my wallet, a small blanket and some snacks. I think a sippy cup would even fit - or I would just pile all the overflow into the stroller basket!

Over time, I have also had the little, black back-pack style bag. I didn't really like it for my purposes. I think I have actually had two of them circulate through here, and both of them I passed along via yard sale or FreeCycle.

Since then I have been pretty creative with what I have used. I have found that my needs have changed over time and also it depends on what we are doing and where we are going. A friend recently gave me a big black purse that I love because I can fit all of my usual purse-type items, PLUS diapers (2 sizes now), wipes, toys and whatever else. I also have a red travel bag that I use. This probably looks really dumb - but it hold a lot and either my husband or I can carry it. We usually use it for longer outtings and when going to church.

The diaper bag I would probably get if I felt like spending lots of money or I had it to do over and could register for it is one that is sold at Toys R Us. A mom I met at a friends house had it and I asked her about it and then looked it up. It is called a Black Messenger Bag by Diaper Dude. Anyway, it is black and stylish and sits on your hip. I think it would be great. If you have one, please leave a review here.

Diaper Dude Diaper Bag

My friend, Cathy, submitted the following tip regarding a bag holder that she uses with her diaper bag:

"I bought a eddie bauer bag holder that is small and it clips on to the diaper bag so I always have bags on hand. They come with refills etc. I also bought sunscreen that stays in the diaper bag so I know that I will have some."

I hope that my friend, Sarah, will write about the new super-delux diaper bag that she made!!! I will post a link to her blog if she wants to tell you about it there!

MARRIAGE MONDAYS: Let's get started

Here are my NON OFFICIAL BUTTONS for MARRIAGE MONDAYS!!! Stay tuned for the real thing!!! Thank you for your interest.

Here's an idea - Marriage Mondays. What are they? Marriage Mondays are an opportunity to do something, anything, that will benefit your relationship and marriage with your significant other. Why is this important? I think it is obvious, but let's discuss anyway...

I think as a parent it is easier to address parenting issues than it is marital issues. It is also easier to put energy into being a good parent than it is a good spouse. Have you had any experience with this? Chances are, if you have children, it has been a relevant topic in your life.

My suggestion for Marriage Mondays is simple...do something, however simple, that will have a positive impact on your spouse. What a great way to start the week off on the right foot. I don't know about you, but when my relationship with my husband is in balance, everything else seems easier. I feel connected, supported and loved. It is so much easier to face things as part of a "team", rather than feeling alone or even worse, being at opposite ends of the spectrum and wasting valuable energy butting heads.

I should admit right now that is an area that could use lots of work on my part...which is why I am interested in a journey of change. Someone recently pointed out the fact that we do preventative maintenance on our cars (and other possessions), but not on our marriages. I think this is a valid point. Let's not sit idle and wait for a major catastrophe, especially if we know we could do things to make things better. Maybe on Mondays you want to identify more than one way that you will enhance your relationship throughout the week...all the power to you. PLEASE TELL US what you have decided to do (well, within reason) and if your plan had the expected results.

I already messed up my plan for Marriage Monday. My idea was to not email my husband at work ALL DAY with any "to dos" or other rants. I was going to ask him what he would like for dinner and nothing more (except nice things). Oooops, I forgot about these details and did email him about dinner, but also asked if he could fix the Internet connection on our home computer. Do you see how this request will take away from what I was hoping to accomplish? Better luck next time. And by the way, I have not heard back about dinner.

Marriage Mondays TIP OF THE DAY:

Sometimes we can get so caught up in the "stuff" of life that we forget to take time to continue to discover the person we love. Remember the first days of love and the hours you spent talking and getting to know each other? No matter how long you have been together, it is important to continue the discovery. Take some time and ask each other these questions: What makes you happiest in our relationship? What is the one thing you would like to change in our relationship? Listen with an open mind and you may discover something new about your spouse.

Source: Church bulletin